Whether it’s due to a desire to appear strong or simply not being able to find the words to describe how they feel, many men are still choosing to remain silent and not seek help.
You may have spotted some signs that a male friend, husband, brother, or son might be experiencing some mental health issues:
Poor sleep, changes in appetite
Changes in routines that impact their social or work
Withdrawing from people or activities,
appearing numb or feeling flat
disinterest in activities that used to bring them enjoyment
Maybe you are not sure how to start the conversation. We've pulled together a few tips that might help.
Remember it’s not about you, it’s about them
Allow them to talk. Listen to what they have to say before you even attempt to tell them about any issues you've had in the past. The focus needs to be on them and their problems first.
Create a safe space to talk
It’s hard to be vulnerable with the people you love about your mental health. Don’t break this trust. Don’t tell him to ‘man up’, or ‘be a real father’ – that will do more harm than good. Encourage vulnerability as a strength, don’t use manipulative techniques to get them to open up, and support them on the path to healing and recovery.
Do an Activity
Sometimes it’s easier to talk as you walk. Go for a walk and see whether they feel more comfortable while out in the fresh air.
Encourage them to talk to others
Don’t be offended if there are areas of their life that they don’t want to talk to you about. If they don’t feel comfortable, suggest talking to someone else they’d feel more comfortable opening up to. Don’t be defensive about this. The most important thing is that they get the help they need.
Author LIBBET PARAVICINI
Founder of Cotswolds Counselling. Cotswolds Counselling is based in Malmesbury near Tetbury, Gloucestershire. Helping children and teenagers from Cirencester, Tetbury, Stroud, Cheltenham, and surrounding areas.
Taking the first step towards recovery is scary and challenging. If a member of your family or friend needs help that please do contact us and we can discuss how counselling sessions can help. We work with clients all across Gloucestershire. Our clinic is based in Malmesbury, we are conveniently located between Cirencester (25mins) and Tetbury (10mins).